NUGGETS OF WISDOM FOR YOU

CONNECTING TO YOUR CHILD

You Don’t Need The Right Words

You Don’t Need The Right Words

I remember in the middle of what seemed like an endless struggle with teeth cleaning, it was the end of the day, I was tired, I had run out of energy and words. Then something wonderful happened.... I just stopped, I surrendered to the situation, I opened my heart and...

Responding To Your Child’s “No”

Responding To Your Child’s “No”

Are you able to separate your own feelings from theirs or have you got swept up in their "No" as either - a personal rejection thus creating a fear-based response - a personal challenge thus creating a control-based response - a more unconscious fight/flight response...

What’s The Compromise?

What’s The Compromise?

I love these 3 words. - They promote social-emotional learning in your child. - They stimulate pre-frontal cortex thinking - The more advanced part of the brain for reasoning, logic and empathy. - They replace power struggles with connection as you are working...

Are You Making A Request or Setting A Limit?

Are You Making A Request or Setting A Limit?

Are you setting a limit or making a request? If there is a higher tone at the end of the sentence then it is heard as a request. If you ask "Is that OK?" at the end of the sentence then it is heard as a request. If you are attached to a specific outcome it is a limit....

Challenges As An Opportunity For EQ

Challenges As An Opportunity For EQ

Every challenge is an opportunity to create a script for your child to use in their future interactions. What script can you offer them for difficult emotions like stress, anger, guilt or jealousy? Firstly, you can give them a vocabulary of feelings to help them to...

Teaching Your Child To Resolve Conflict

Teaching Your Child To Resolve Conflict

"Mum, Fred did x", "Mum, Sarah did y". Sound familiar? You, I'm afraid to say, have created this scenario by being the referee, they are looking to you for resolution. The objective here is to hand the responsibility back to your children. You do this by NEVER judging...

Laughter As An Emotional Release

Laughter As An Emotional Release

A child has an innate ability to release tension, either by laughing or crying (for the latter please read my post on Positive Emotional Releases). Laughter is fantastic to bring in when you are facing a tense situation. Playing the clown is one way you can encourage...

Mindfulness – A Bedtime Miracle

Mindfulness – A Bedtime Miracle

If your child cannot sleep ask them first if there is anything worrying them or if they are physically OK. Following that you could ask if they would like to try some mindfulness? If there is resistance you could suggest listening to some age-appropriate mindfulness...

The Gift of Eye Contact

The Gift of Eye Contact

Eye contact - this simple act of non-verbal communication brings with it so many benefits. As you are pausing you have time to remember the intentions of good dialogue. (To connect, to actively listen, to model social-emotional skills). If you are at eye level it also...

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